When longtime journalist Stephen Kreider Yoder retired, he expected relief.
Instead, he felt what he described in The Wall Street Journal as “the vacuum” — the yawning space where his career once lived (1). He writes about the disorientation of waking up without deadlines, editors or a central organizing force for his days. “Who am I now?” became a quiet, persistent question.
His wife, Karen, experienced retirement differently. She filled her days with sewing projects in her “woman cave.” She never agonized about losing her professional identity because she had hobbies and side pursuits.
Their story highlights a broader truth: Retirement is both a financial event and a psychological reckoning.
According to the Employee Benefit Research Institute, while 67% of workers feel financially confident about retirement, only 26% of retirees say their overall lifestyle in retirement is better than expected (2). That suggests there may still be those retirees who face an emotional gap in what they expect and what they find in the first few years after leaving work, shaping the rest of retirement.
And then there is the financial layer that can impact the overall experience of retirement. Even retirees with healthy nest eggs are uneasy about spending.
A 2026 Paycheck or Pot of Gold study from MetLife found that 58% of pre-retirees and 51% of retirees worry about running out of money (3). Due to these concerns, 46% of pre-retirees say they need to reduce their spending while 44% of current retirees say they have already done this (4).
And that anxiety may be growing. The same study shows that 96% of pre-retirees and 90% of retirees now seek professional guidance (up from 86% and 81% in 2022, respectively).
Meanwhile, a demographic wave termed “Peak 65” — composed of individuals aged 61 to 65 — is a cohort directly impacted by concerns over market volatility, inflation and Social Security (5).
According to the 2025 Protected Retirement Income and Planning (PRIP) study, 30% of Americans in this group are considering delaying retirement. Meanwhile, 58% of Americans worry that their Social Security benefits could be reduced because of recent actions by the administration (5).
Additionally, when coupled with several new rules for 2026 impacting retirees, including a 2.8% Social Security cost-of-living adjustment (COLA) and higher Medicare premiums, it’s clear why retirement planning can feel anything but simple (6).
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Researchers often describe retirement as unfolding in stages: a honeymoon period followed by a phase of disenchantment. Without the structure of work, some retirees feel unmoored.
A good tip for handling the transition is “identity bridging,” which involves carrying parts of your pre-retirement self into your new life (7). A former executive might mentor. A teacher might tutor. A marketer might serve on a nonprofit board.
Volunteering can be powerful. Interestingly, more than 25 million Americans ages 50 to 70 are interested in using their skills to address social needs (8). Purpose-driven activity is linked to stronger mental health and social connection.
Maximizing your time isn’t about filling every hour. Instead, it’s about choosing activities that reinforce your evolving identity.
In the midst of this evolving identity, financial sustainability requires balancing caution with flexibility.
Morningstar’s latest research suggests a safe starting withdrawal rate of about 3.9% for new retirees using an inflation-adjusted strategy. However, experts claim retirees who can scale discretionary spending up or down based on market conditions may be able to spend more overall (9).
That means distinguishing between fixed costs — housing, insurance, healthcare — and flexible expenses such as travel, gifting or home upgrades. In strong market years, you may have room to spend more. In weaker years, rein it in. In either scenario, living below your means is the safest bet.
If you live with a spouse, coordinating with them is critical. Only 11% of couples retire simultaneously while 62% retire more than a year apart, according to AARP (10). Staggered retirement affects cash flow, Social Security timing and household roles.
Pretirement conversations that cover when to retire, where to live, when to claim benefits and how much to support children can also prevent later conflict (11).
Here are some ways retirees can find fulfillment in their later years:
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Build routines without overscheduling
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Maintain social ties
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Revive abandoned hobbies
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Apply professional skills in new contexts
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Permit themselves to evolve
For some, that looks like Karen’s sewing projects. For others, it may mean part-time consulting, volunteer leadership or extended travel during the early years.
The early retirement years are formative. They can amplify the “vacuum” — or become the foundation of a deeply satisfying next chapter.
Retirement isn’t simply about whether you saved enough.
It’s about answering confidently: Who am I now — and how will I maximize my money and time to live that answer fully?
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The Wall Street Journal (1); Employee Benefit Research Institute (2); Metlife (3); Plan Adviser (4); Limra Consumer (5); AARP (6, 7, 10, 11); Boldin (8); Morning Star (9)
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